Prince Charming- God's way

Growing up I remember being told by my brothers, father and brother's friends that I should never hold my breath for a guy like the ones in the romance movies. I took it to heart and I would always remind myself while watching said movies that those kind of men don't exist. Men who care about their wives emotions and don't tell them to stop being "so hormonal". Men who protect their wive's hearts and choose them over anyone else just don't exist in real life. Supposedly.
It was like He was asking why I didn't trust Him to bring the husband from my dreams around when that's what He wants to do. This doesn't mean that "the man" will be perfect but that he will do his best with the grace of God covering his shortcomings because he will have them.

I often dream about the kind of man I want to marry one day but I always end up reminding myself that I can dream but I can't expect it to actually happen. I couldn't expect any man on this earth to contain all of the traits I long for. Traits like fighting for me, leading me even when it is tough, holding me as I cry, being able to make me laugh when I'm sad, not being embarrassed when I bring him lunch at work, to be proud of me, to cherish means. Try his best to build me up and not tear mew down and most importantly to love God with every possible once of His existence. (This is just on side of the relationship and I'm not ignoring the parts that God calls a wife to do, they just aren't part if this blog)

Recently God has been challenging these views of mine by showing me couples where the man actually contains them! Shocking! In the last year or so God has been slowly changing my view on what kind of man I should be looking for and not just dreaming about. Tonight as I was crying out to him in fear of never finding such a man He reminded me of the verse that says

"If you then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask him!" Matthew 7:11(ESV)

 In saying this I just want to tell all the girls to keep dreaming about the men we would like to one day marry. Don't let the guys who don't measure up to your dreams tell you that they are unrealistic and that there are no guys who are like that because I have met ones who are but one thing about the ones who do measure up, they are imperfect but of they love God with all their hearts then they will love you accordingly. Do not settle just because it's taking a long time to find the guy you've been dreaming about.

A warning also must come with this post: do not think that the "perfect" man will solve all your problems and make you feel loved all the time, only God can do that. I warn you not to idolize that man by holding your husband to standards he cannot not attain. A man can only love the way we long for, first and most of all with the love of God sustaining him and second, having a wife who also respects and honours her husband, loving him even when he falls short. No man will ever be perfect but when we let God write our story, including the theme of love, it can hold many blessings.

P.S We need to remember that we are not entitled to such men and we even don't deserve them but I serve  a God who longs to bless His children. God wants our hearts to be His first, fall in love with Him first and let Him choose which man to allow to hold your heart here on earth. Trust Him.